Change Your Perspective to Change Your Life

“Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it.” ― Irving Berlin The above quote illustrates the fundamental importance of perception in how we see ourselves, our lives, and the actions and expressions of the people and events around us. In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) one of the most important techniques I teach is about managing your perspective. Our actions are often based on assumptions that have layered themselves in our subconscious – so our actions to certain situations are in reality reactions. Knee-jerk responses that we put out there without conscious thought or consideration for the damage we may be doing to ourselves and our own potential for success. Our internal programming is simply following the neural pathway that exists and our behaviours are enacted accordingly. But what if this is something you can change? After all, your perception of a person or event isn’t truly real is it? It’s an interpretation – and if this is so, then you can adjust that understanding much like the contrast and brightness settings on your TV. You can choose to re-interpret – or re-frame – the way you see something so that the thoughts and beliefs around this better serve your life goals. Let me give you an example. You have never stayed with any kind of diet – so you tell yourself you just aren’t good at managing your weight. This perspective does not help you achieve the healthy lifestyle you would like to have, does it? What if you shifted your point of view just a little? What if you decided that you...

‘I don’t’, ‘I won’t’, ‘I can’t’ because . . . The Power of Limiting Beliefs

‘He can who thinks he can, and he can’t who thinks he can’t. This is an inexorable, indisputable law’Henry Ford I quote Ford again because he was clearly passionate about the power of belief, and the importance of self-belief in particular. He also had quite a bit to say about attitude – and really, it is all in your head. You can talk yourself into, or out of, just about anything if you allow it so why not use that to your advantage? If you know you can ‘make’ yourself believe anything, why not be selective about which beliefs you allow to enter your inner most thoughts? Belief is a choice – and once you understand this at a fundamental level, it makes a huge difference to your outcomes in life. One of the foundation stones of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is that repeating patterns in your life creates neural pathways in your brain that are emphasised over and over again like a tracing that you re-run in order to create an imprint of an image. This ‘imprint’ becomes your belief; here’s an example. Back in your school days you’re told that you’re not good at sports, and you ‘buy’ that. Your mind gathers evidence as you move through your life to support this idea. You run for the bus and miss it; you come last in any physical activity and you totally suck at aerobics and yoga class. Every time you trip over or stub your toe, you might add this to your ‘tracing’ – you tell yourself it’s because you’re uncoordinated, or clumsy, or unfit, or just not...

Self Care or Selfish?

Most people have more than one responsibility in their lives; family, friends, work – sometimes even organising downtime seems like more trouble than it’s worth. Like a vacation that you’re glad is over because it took so much out of you just to make it happen – know what I mean? Somewhere in amongst all the calls on your time, is You – and it is very important to make the time to hear yourself. To know yourself – and to correct any unhelpful thoughts and feelings before they become habits that hold you back. Can you do this? Yes – you can if you know how. Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is all about learning to take control of your thoughts – to jettison limiting beliefs and ideas that no longer serve your interests and replace them with ones that propel you forward towards the life you want. How often do you do exactly what you want in your life? Did you plan a quiet night in, only to be decoyed out on the town by a friend who ‘needed a wing man’? Or did you miss your yoga class because you took a relative’s pet to the vet? There is such a thing as giving too much – and depleting yourself without stopping to replenish your emotional resources is a bridge past that point. Have you ever had an awful week, and still allowed a friend to cry on your shoulder? Turned to them for the same support only to find it wasn’t there? How did that make you feel? Drained? Exhausted? This is something you can prevent. Self...