‘I don’t’, ‘I won’t’, ‘I can’t’ because . . . The Power of Limiting Beliefs

‘He can who thinks he can, and he can’t who thinks he can’t. This is an inexorable, indisputable law’Henry Ford I quote Ford again because he was clearly passionate about the power of belief, and the importance of self-belief in particular. He also had quite a bit to say about attitude – and really, it is all in your head. You can talk yourself into, or out of, just about anything if you allow it so why not use that to your advantage? If you know you can ‘make’ yourself believe anything, why not be selective about which beliefs you allow to enter your inner most thoughts? Belief is a choice – and once you understand this at a fundamental level, it makes a huge difference to your outcomes in life. One of the foundation stones of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is that repeating patterns in your life creates neural pathways in your brain that are emphasised over and over again like a tracing that you re-run in order to create an imprint of an image. This ‘imprint’ becomes your belief; here’s an example. Back in your school days you’re told that you’re not good at sports, and you ‘buy’ that. Your mind gathers evidence as you move through your life to support this idea. You run for the bus and miss it; you come last in any physical activity and you totally suck at aerobics and yoga class. Every time you trip over or stub your toe, you might add this to your ‘tracing’ – you tell yourself it’s because you’re uncoordinated, or clumsy, or unfit, or just not...

Self Care or Selfish?

Most people have more than one responsibility in their lives; family, friends, work – sometimes even organising downtime seems like more trouble than it’s worth. Like a vacation that you’re glad is over because it took so much out of you just to make it happen – know what I mean? Somewhere in amongst all the calls on your time, is You – and it is very important to make the time to hear yourself. To know yourself – and to correct any unhelpful thoughts and feelings before they become habits that hold you back. Can you do this? Yes – you can if you know how. Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is all about learning to take control of your thoughts – to jettison limiting beliefs and ideas that no longer serve your interests and replace them with ones that propel you forward towards the life you want. How often do you do exactly what you want in your life? Did you plan a quiet night in, only to be decoyed out on the town by a friend who ‘needed a wing man’? Or did you miss your yoga class because you took a relative’s pet to the vet? There is such a thing as giving too much – and depleting yourself without stopping to replenish your emotional resources is a bridge past that point. Have you ever had an awful week, and still allowed a friend to cry on your shoulder? Turned to them for the same support only to find it wasn’t there? How did that make you feel? Drained? Exhausted? This is something you can prevent. Self...
What Motivates You?

What Motivates You?

“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” ― Henry Ford Have you ever noticed that people are really only motivated by two things in life? Fear – and Desire. They are either running from one, or racing towards the other. Those who are motivated by movement towards the things that matter most to them tend to succeed in the best possible way. This brand of success goes by many names but most people simply see it as ‘living your passion’. It’s a saying heard so often that many people often dismiss it without really stopping to think about what it actually means. So, what is your passion? Do you know? If you do, would you say you are ‘living your passion’ in the same way as, say, Henry Ford did? Or Sir Richard Branson? If not, why do you think this is? Could it be because you’re too busy running away from something to make progress towards the dreams and goals that truly matter to you? If this sounds familiar to you, you’re not alone. What do you think is stopping you? For most people, it’s Fear that holds them back – and you can get past this. You can learn how to move forward despite the scared feeling in the pit of your belly – and once you learn how to do this your life expands in the most amazing ways. Obstacles become opportunities and roadblocks are just challenges to be met – your entire perspective can change in an instant and it starts with you making the choice to...
The Moment That Matters

The Moment That Matters

Stay with me for a moment: just one. There is a moment – just one moment – between the time when something in the outside world occurs (in NLP we call this a stimulus) and the time in which you react to that event. This is the split-second in which you can decide on your response. Has someone hurt you? How will you react? Will you become angry? Cry out? Hurt them back? Talk to them and find out why they behaved the way they did? Will you do nothing and walk away, blaming yourself for your own pain? Which response sounds the most like you right now? Which response would serve you best? Did you know you can learn to respond in the best possible way for yourself? It takes discipline, and training, and the result is a more powerful You. This is where Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) makes such a difference to so many people. Choosing your thoughts frees you to really become the kind of person you want to be – and this is the first step towards creating the kind of life you’ve always wanted. This is why NLP is such a powerful tool, offering self-mastery to those who have taken the time and trouble to invest in themselves. They have been taught to recognise these moments – and to harness them to their advantage. This is a skill, not a natural-born talent and it is something you can learn too. Life is full of tiny moments that, handled correctly, can make a big difference. Just a single moment can give you the edge you’ve been...